Why Men Get Nervous When They Are About to Approach a Woman

We see them there in the bars, or the nightclubs, or even in the school yard. They are women, and they are scary. In order to try to ascertain why girls are indeed so scary to boys, we have to stop a moment and think back a long time ago. I’m not talking about last week; rather, I am talking about over fifty thousand years ago, in a time known as the Pleistocene. Try to imagine that you are a young male walking around the planet at this time. Typically you would have probably been in the African Savannah, and you would have been part of a group of around 50 people or so. In this group, about half would have been women. Of these 25 women, most will probably already have a mate. Some will be too old for a mate, and some will be too young. This means, that in a most probably scenario, you will probably only have about five girls whom you may consider a potential mate.

Now let us consider a scenario in which you approached one of the five girls, and she didn’t like you. This is bad but it is often not so bad as you think. Remember the game is a numbers game. Or perhaps she thinks you are too weak, stupid, odd, tall, short, ugly, pretty, or just too weird. What would be her next course of action? Well as soon as you walk away after being cut down by this girl, she of course is going to tell all of her friends. And who are her other friends, the other four girls in the group of course. So, we can see that, your failure to attract a woman in the Pleistocene would have met with horrendous results. The other girls in the group would have lost respect for you and your mating value would have been diminished significantly. Now, as fate turns out, with the invention of civilization, we no longer live in the Pleistocene. In the modern era, if you fail to attract a girl, chances are you may never see her again. But the problem is, the brain doesn’t know what civilization is. It is still living in the past because it hasn’t had enough time to evolve yet. Consequently, even to this day, when you enter a public gathering your brain is literally designed to make you anxious about approaching girls.